Our adventures as we homeschool, travel, and explore our way through life... which was made more scenic by the additions of Asperger's, Parkinsonism, and Gluten Intolerance. Welcome to The Journey Unexpected!
As a father of a recently diagnosed (and long-time suspected) aspie, thank you. Every time I can see things a little more from his perspective, it makes it easier on me. Seeing his fits through empathetic eyes instead of frustration has really helped my relationship with him (and my wife!)
You are definitely welcome Ryan. I totally agree that seeing things a bit more like our children on the spectrum makes it better for us all. As my son has matured more I sometimes even try to explain to him how it is for those of us who are NT (Neuro-typical) and that helps him a bit, but you have to watch for the right timing for this unless you want to create a headache... lol
I continually point out some advantages he has with having Aspergers and being on the Spectrum. There are several. You just have to focus more on those and less on the disadvantages to go further. Not to the point of denial, but where you look for the good! ~ My son thinks that it is kind of cool to have similarities with people like Albert Einstein, Mozart, some computer game programmers he looks up to, etc, etc.
You might also appreciate some of my other posts about Aspergers... quotes, funny times, etc that you can find on the Aspergers, Autism, & Special Needs tab under the blogs title above.
My son does not have Aspergers but he has Prader-willi syndrome and is also on the autistic spectrum. (most people meeting him though assume he has aspergers by the way he acts) What you wrote totally described his melt down issues. We have discovered that since both hubby and I learned more about the meltdowns...they have decreased so much and when they happen we typically can help our son before it escalates too far.
Yes, catching the meltdown before it gets full-blown is a great accomplishment. Everyone feels better and each time is another learning experience. I feel that the more I educate myself, the more I am able to help my own son and other people I come into contact with. It sounds like you are doing a great job with your wonderful son!
I was recently diagnosed at the ripe age of 25 and my mother always new I was an aspie. I would always argue to her that I was not and when she wanted to get me tested I was 18 and flat out refused. I believed that all my quarks where just my personality. I find it funny every I read about a quark of an aspie and I think in awe "Thats me right there" I am finding so many things about my personality it surprises me.
I know what you mean about basically having a lot of "Aha moments" after getting a diagnosis. I truly believe that whatever your diagnosis is, it is better than not knowing what is going on and why. If you know what it is, than you will know how to best deal with it. By the way, some of my favorite things about my son is his quirkiness! ;) Thanks for stopping by and for your comment.
As a father of a recently diagnosed (and long-time suspected) aspie, thank you. Every time I can see things a little more from his perspective, it makes it easier on me. Seeing his fits through empathetic eyes instead of frustration has really helped my relationship with him (and my wife!)
ReplyDeleteYou are definitely welcome Ryan. I totally agree that seeing things a bit more like our children on the spectrum makes it better for us all. As my son has matured more I sometimes even try to explain to him how it is for those of us who are NT (Neuro-typical) and that helps him a bit, but you have to watch for the right timing for this unless you want to create a headache... lol
ReplyDeleteI continually point out some advantages he has with having Aspergers and being on the Spectrum. There are several. You just have to focus more on those and less on the disadvantages to go further. Not to the point of denial, but where you look for the good! ~ My son thinks that it is kind of cool to have similarities with people like Albert Einstein, Mozart, some computer game programmers he looks up to, etc, etc.
You might also appreciate some of my other posts about Aspergers... quotes, funny times, etc that you can find on the Aspergers, Autism, & Special Needs tab under the blogs title above.
Keep taking good care of you and yours!
My son does not have Aspergers but he has Prader-willi syndrome and is also on the autistic spectrum. (most people meeting him though assume he has aspergers by the way he acts) What you wrote totally described his melt down issues. We have discovered that since both hubby and I learned more about the meltdowns...they have decreased so much and when they happen we typically can help our son before it escalates too far.
ReplyDeleteYes, catching the meltdown before it gets full-blown is a great accomplishment. Everyone feels better and each time is another learning experience. I feel that the more I educate myself, the more I am able to help my own son and other people I come into contact with. It sounds like you are doing a great job with your wonderful son!
ReplyDeleteI was recently diagnosed at the ripe age of 25 and my mother always new I was an aspie. I would always argue to her that I was not and when she wanted to get me tested I was 18 and flat out refused. I believed that all my quarks where just my personality. I find it funny every I read about a quark of an aspie and I think in awe "Thats me right there" I am finding so many things about my personality it surprises me.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about basically having a lot of "Aha moments" after getting a diagnosis. I truly believe that whatever your diagnosis is, it is better than not knowing what is going on and why. If you know what it is, than you will know how to best deal with it. By the way, some of my favorite things about my son is his quirkiness! ;) Thanks for stopping by and for your comment.
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